February 3rd, 2026

Finding Sanity

My Discovery of Sanity

In Early Sobriety

 

Early in Sobriety it was 

Simply, Not Drinking, Today. That Seemingly 

Simply (But Extremely Hard) Daily Battle

Could Only Be Achieved Though Daily Meetings, 

Close and almost Constant Contact with 

My Sponsor and Sharing in Meetings.

 

That Daily - Hourly - Momentarily goal ~ Required The Experience, Strength and Hope of Others as I Lacked, at Most, Even a Modicum of Those Attributes.

As The Minutes, Hours, and Days and Long Nights Passed - Sensing Somehow that Not Drinking Today Might be Possible, but Not Likely. 

I developed, Was Blessed Somehow with  an Attitude that No Matter how much I Wanted to Drink Today whatever the Reason that if I could Just Not Drink Today and Awoke Tomorrow , Feeling the Same - then I would give Myself Permission to Drink Tomorrow. 

The "One Day At a Time" Strategy

The Power of Today: Early sobriety is rarely about committing to never drinking again, as that feels impossible. It is, as you said, about simply not drinking today—sometimes, not drinking for the next hour or moment.

The "Tomorrow" Promise: Your strategy of giving yourself permission to drink tomorrow if you feel the same way is a common, effective psychological tactic. It removes the pressure of "forever" and tricks the alcoholic brain into focusing solely on the present 24 hours. 

The Necessity of Support

Borrowing Hope: When you feel you lack the strength, sobriety, or sanity, the "Experience, Strength, and Hope" of others in meetings acts as a lifeline.

Constant Contact with a Sponsor: Relying on a sponsor (someone with more experience) allows you to navigate the intense, chaotic, and emotional roller coaster of the first few months.

Daily Meetings (90 in 90): The recommendation for 90 meetings in 90 days is not just for learning; it is for creating an immediate, structured support system to replace the time once spent drinking. 

The 34th Rule of Love

By Shams of Tabriz

Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism nor capitulation. Just the opposite. True power resides in submission—a power that comes from within. Those who submit to the divine essence of life will live in unperturbed tranquility and peace even when the whole wide world goes through turbulence after turbulence